tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48167661961824399822024-02-22T03:52:45.594+01:00fluffycutethingThese are just my daily ramblings and musingsFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.comBlogger250125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-41035482791398222592024-01-04T15:38:00.003+01:002024-01-04T15:38:11.930+01:00Today<p> Happy new year! So many cobwebs here </p>Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-19577679799925606892020-10-27T15:08:00.005+01:002020-10-27T15:08:54.457+01:00Bookmarked<p>I don’t want to forget </p><p>I’m thankful to God for life </p><p><br /></p><p>On the 19 of sept 2020 </p><p><br /></p><p>I had a stroke!!</p>Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-22385007082751071022020-08-10T13:46:00.000+01:002020-08-10T13:46:00.760+01:00Absolute randoms!! <p> I’m on a fitness challenge once again. </p><p><br /></p><p>Taking it more serious now, jumped on the exercise wagon In July. My pace is slower this month so far but this group challenge should help me get back and improve my pace! So help me Lord !!! </p><p><br /></p><p>This age 40 sha . There’s something it does to the mind like a shift. A good one though. I pray for God’s continued mercies and opportunity to recover all that has been lost . I’m hoping to restart on many levels and get things right this time round ! </p><p><br /></p><p>On a whim I ordered a bag of potatoes from Jos. I still don’t even have the money to pay for the bag . Plan Is to eat some and sell off the rest if all goes well , I’d cash in this season and hopefully make some pocket money at the least! So help me Lord once again. </p><p><br /></p><p>Finally somewhat resolved the issue my bathroom tiles have given me for the past four years . They’re black and absolutely difficult to clean. We also have hard water so even immediately a scrub the streak marks and soap scum remain *rolls eyes* I’m sure everyone who’s stepped in imagines I don’t clean it ever ! Anyway I just stumbled on an idea an expanded on it I wiped it down with a towel soaked in bleach and voila...... it’s shiny black!!! I’m soooooooo elated I tell you </p><p>Someone was sharing pictures of her kitchen gadgets on in Instagram the other day. Made me wonder if people like the Ooni’s wife own any kitchen gadgets . I mean I doubt if she does any cooking per se so does she own a blender she really likes and bought for eg? Or it’s the cook(s) living his or her dream and ordering for kitchen equipment he or she has always liked! </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-33641856256581729362020-04-16T11:30:00.001+01:002020-04-16T11:30:16.497+01:00I don mature for this jungle!!!! <div class="p1" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-size: 22px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 3px;">
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<span class="s2">Demola’s bells rang yesterday. I was having a casual meal just nibbling on moin moin literally! I was simultaneously playing candy crush too. Next thing he’s yelling drop the phone drop the phone. For a second I thought he wanted to say something and I asked what’s up. Then he says I can’t eat and use my phone. </span></div>
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<span class="s2">So of course I asked “is it at this my forty years of age, that you want to determine what I can do or not do?’ E ma gba mi ke?! <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>He’s then yelling <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>about how so as my husband he’s too small to talk to me or tell me what to do. I then said he shouldn’t mix issues up but he certainly can’t be the one determining how and when I’d use my phone. </span></div>
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<span class="s2">What kind of ego makes some of these Nigerian men feel they can literally control another human being ie a wife?! I’m not his child or sibling why would he feel the need or urge to control me to that extent? </span></div>
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<span class="s2">That’s abuse ain’t it? It’s a battle I’ve fought endlessly. This same man at one time would turn off the tv in my room while I’m watching late at night and say to me “go to bed”. You can imagine the countless brawls that spun off from those incidents . Twelve years after it’s my use of the phone that’s his problem . And this is coming From someone who lives on his phone! Every waking second of his life he’s using the phone. It used to bother me at a time I cannot lie but I’ve grown used to it and <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>since adapted . </span></div>
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<span class="s2">Anyway the bit where I was proud of myself is in the conversation thereafter! I asked him what the problem was . I have to screenshot the conversation so that in future when I’m reading this I’d further affirm to myself <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>really I was married to a pyscho.</span></div>
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<span class="s2">I’m angry and sad and further depressed all at the same time. I’ve prayed though not as deeply as I should have. It’s a lot to deal with all at the same time. But there’s hope and light at the end of this tunnel. </span></div>
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This time round even though the issues haven’t changed much I want to document my steps and actions towards recovery!<br />
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I’m turning 40 next year God willingFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-45289421779673528292017-11-13T17:42:00.001+01:002017-11-13T17:42:43.606+01:00picking up the pieces 1Picking up the pieces<br />
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It may not completely make sense but I want to document this phase I passed through <br />
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Sometimes life decides to hand or deal a person a very long streak of unpleasantness!!!<br />
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This year has been one of those years "phew"<br />
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It's the fourth quarter and it's been a really long year for me! Literally at every turn and at every corner I've constantly found myself trapped, stuck and weary from issues of life as I put them!<br />
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Despite my many blessings I still find myself without a source of income and in an unhappy marriage...<br />
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This night like many nights I attempted to give it Another go and talked.<br />
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It went the way it always goes he just yakked and yakked! Jumbled up all the issues and of course we had no conclusions... He said we would continue but since he didn't bring it up again I just didn't bother too! I'm so freaking worn out and tired of the messFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-41655446094387472512017-05-08T16:54:00.001+01:002017-05-08T16:54:42.187+01:00And the winner is........the actual title of my post should actually be "awijare"! It's a Yoruba expression and I'm afraid I haven't been able to transliterate it to English!<br />
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The expression describes someone or people who table issues or discussions especially during conflicts with an aim to win! The intent is to box the listeners into your corner by adding sentiments like crying or exaggerated sighs and the likes but important thing or focus for the "awijareeee" is to ensure he or she appears as the victim and as such emerges the winner.<br />
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Over the past few weeks I have been in conflict as it were with a loved one. I'd have preferred if we could sit like adults and both express our feelings and find a meeting point for moving forward. Unfortunately the dialogue or rather attempt at dialogue broke down and third parties got involved.<br />
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I happened to have been dealing with someone who falls into the category I just detailed above and I've been shocked beyond my wits at the stories I've heard and tales that have literally emerged plus exaggerated scenarios all just to score cheap points!!!<br />
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It's disappointing I tell you but I guess that's the way the world is.<br />
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So today I ask in conflict resolution what should be important- scoring points and thus being the winner/victor? Irrespective of whether conflict gets resolved?!<br />
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Ensuring there's resolution despite not being crowned victor?<br />
Have you been a "victim" of this type of scenario? What did you do? Do share!!!!<br />
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<br />Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-91272936999016536182017-03-21T14:58:00.001+01:002017-03-21T14:58:45.597+01:00So caught up!!!!!Chai its so easy* to get caught up with adulting and forget the little things that generally lift your spirit and keep you somewhat on a high! <br />
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Been so long my dearly beloved blog *kisses* <br />
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Even my smallie is now 7 months and with two teeth...<br />
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His brothers are almost my height and still driving me nuts! I never start abi?<br />
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We moved homes and settling down has been a challenge. Just when I started to settle in mentally, we got robbed at the house and my MIL was badly hurt. it's been really tough! Her care, the finances and I've literally had to place my projections for the year on hold in the midst of all the drama! <br />
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This is asides the sleeplessness from paranoia and anxiety!<br />
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Don't even know what it feels like to have nail polish on anymore.... *sighs* this life sef! <br />
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Nevertheless I give all the glory to God! He's great <br />
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Lemme go and catch up brb<br />
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Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-76535529097904500742016-08-29T03:25:00.000+01:002016-08-29T03:25:58.307+01:00Accepting just as it is?My sister sent me a random message today! The message was disjointed and just fueled my annoyance a bit.<br />
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It was a supposedly congratulatory message even though the word congratulations didn't feature in it! Three weeks after my little one arrived. Am i such a bad sibling?<br />
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The relationship has been strained for years i admit. I have my shortcomings but the gap has largely stemmed from her not accepting her wrong doing and insisting she didn't behave so badly. Unfortunately my other siblings haven't been so vocal on the subject. I have and i have even attempted several reconciliatory meetings. I gave up after the last one where she kept her nose in the air and still kept justifying her actions!!!! <br />
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I feel disappointed particularly in the light of the many sacrifices i made for her over the years. Again i'm sure along the way i probably had a few slip ups to. And i have apologised for as many as i have remembered.<br />
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Her husband said to me once that she feels aggrieved on some matters and i asked him how i was to make ammends if she doesn't bring it to the fore!<br />
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my older brother says that we must operate with people on thier level and be accepting of people as they are! So for eg if she insists that on the matter that caused the strain and some of her subsequent actions she is right then we should let it be and operate with her on that level.<br />
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So i ask myself, am i supposed to respond to her message and pretend it doesn't upset me????????<br />
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Really i feel soooo sooo annoyed here right now!<br />
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But should this be so?????<br />
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Phew..... it's all out! Feel better somewhatFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-52351516626564748472016-08-22T14:53:00.002+01:002016-08-22T14:53:51.454+01:00My husband! This economy can just disgrace someone sha! Found myself picking some nail polish in a cheap store and my bill was 5 dollars, my brain somehow converted to naira and i was like "huh three nail polish for N1500*, i'm not buying biko" ... Mcheeewww<br />
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May God see us through this period oh! We didn't have a Joseph to dream and warn us of tough times ahead! It is well.<br />
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Lemme go onto my husband matters *eyes flutter*<br />
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Recently met someone, very nice lady. She's got a great family as well. They've been married for a bit and seem like a regular happy family. What i find intriguing and amusing is the way the wife punctuates her sentences with *my sweerat*! As in we are having a convo and she wants to randomly refer to her mr and where i would say hubby's name she says (for eg) * i was telling my sweerat that we are going to the mall*.Sometimes i find it quite amusing but then i wonder why?. is she trying to affirm to me that she loves her lover???? :D<br />
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Another dear friend used to punctuate sentences with my husband when she first got married of course by the time they settled into the marriage and issues of life caught up with them, she changed his name to his name :D<br />
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I would call my partner/spouse/boyfriend a pet name only when we are alone or if i'm conversing with him or better still during nooky!!!!<br />
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Be like say something dey do me today oh LOL Hmmmmm<br />
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I keep wondering what it's like to date a man like Usain Bolt.. you know ;) such strength!!!!!!!<br />
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Meanwhile why are female athletes literally naked in their outfits? The same sports their male counterparts are able to cover their privates now. Abi? All their buttocks will just be out there, quite distasteful abeg..<br />
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Recently stumbled on one BBC feature/video called Lagos to London, it was published some months back and though i heard of it, i never got to watch it. Nigerians are trying oh! Almost had headache after watching the thing! Imagine Toke Makinwa spending 5000pounds in one shopping spree! chai. Then some boys talking about thousands of pounds on party!!!!! Where were they when i was single and searching for a man? Couldn't they toast me? Mcheeeewwwww<br />
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We are moving homes! really happy at that, quite tired of my present flat especially since i was told that a co-tenant is a *commercial diabolical spiritualist* i.e he offers fetish services to people! I heard he even slaughters birds in his flat... Hian<br />
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I'm just happy to be moving abeg, i have small small children who play around the compound. May God protect us all.<br />
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Going to finish off my breakfast of oatmeal.... yep trying to be healthy these days :DFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-38188245222446029702016-08-15T01:05:00.001+01:002016-08-15T01:05:37.244+01:00Baby news! Baby's finally here :D<br />
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I give God all the glory.<br />
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It's a boy, the third boy LOL.<br />
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I'm sleep deprived and trying to get the hang of it all again. The past two weeks have been exhilarating. I'm not in my home environment so not as settled as i'd like but still i'm thankful and happy for everything God has blessed me with right now.<br />
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I'm giving exclusive breast feeding a trial. Gave it a shot with no 2 but not as seriously as i should have. So help me God this time. I had to give a few ml of formula on day 1 and 2 though because my supply was still low and so on.<br />
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I'm calmer this time too and the crying doesn't bother me or i don't feel frustrated. I'm not praying as much as i should but again God will help me, i can only get better. I guess at the time bobo refuses to sleep in the night i better just buckle up on prayers.....<br />
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I have also decided to take it easy and not pressure myself unnecessarily so for eg we bathe when we bathe ;) no pressure of baby must be washed day and night.....<br />
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Lemme go and check on the small mr!Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-62138103684734850902016-07-29T22:23:00.001+01:002016-07-29T22:23:24.071+01:00Lots and lots to say! Kai this my old age belle na wa oh!<br />
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i'm literally at my wits ends just waiting for baby to pop!. I'm so so bored and my phone plus ipad have decided to stop functioning. this is me who isn't working at the moment. Over and above the lecture i got from mr on how wasteful i am *rolls eyes*<br />
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The economy is bringing out all sorts of sides from everyone. Don't completely blame him his plate and hands truly are full right now!<br />
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We are moving homes soon, i'm looking forward to starting life afresh. the neighbourhood is sort of rural though but i will do all i can to make me and the boys comfy. we will have to look for creative ways to entertain ourselves....<br />
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A couple of my friends spent hundreds of thousands fixing curtains for their homes just the living room oh! I was sure at the time they were just being extravagant. This shall not be my portion..... Mine had better cost far less oh!<br />
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I'm torn between looking for employment once i have the baby or staying home for at least a year to care properly for the children. Don't even want a maid for now, all that talking i did with my last maid has worn me out. So help me God, the bright side of having a baby and doing all the chores and cooking alone is the attendant weight loss. I'm just going to have to plan, prioritise and be organised.<br />
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Two of my former colleagues were found to be involved in a huge fraud/scam. The amounts involved are millions of naira. I had always known they were shady characters but my boss isn't one to approach with such suspicions and besides one of the people was literally his heartthrob. He would practically have an orgasm just calling the fellow's name :D! one of my concerns on the subject is how these fellows would relay the incident and subsequent loss of jobs to their wives. One has even fled abroad! i imagine them saying things like "honey i did it for the family" or "i'm sorry"? Really i wonder sha. then the wife is she supposed/expected to quit the marriage? Or support as in for better for worse. Then again the wives involved did enjoy the proceeds of the fraud. i'm sure they both knew their husbands were spending and living far above their means. Abi could they have not known?<br />
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One of the highlights* of this fraud case for me is the overall boss and the finance people. You should see them scrutinizing one thousand naira expenses and generally monitoring the usage of morning fresh/handwash/toilet roll in the office. Meanwhile millions of cash were being stolen over a period of a year and they had no damn clue!!!!!!<br />
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Let me split this my gist into two.... Will be back soon;)Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-36623746654449481322016-05-10T13:47:00.000+01:002016-05-10T13:51:45.608+01:00Breather part 2so far so good with this staying at home meme. I've spent a lot of the time musing about the past though and I am filled with many regrets at the wasted time and lost opportunities because I just have not been settled enough to enjoy or even live life as if were. <br />
been so so consumed by my challenges at work and at home. Sad part is the effect some of these issues seem to have impacted on my boys. God helping me I am slowly and indeed steadily giving my life a shape once again. The house is being restored.... Finally I must add! Didn't realise the heap of junk I had accumulated and was hanging onto. Spoilt appliances that I could have repaired or discarded. Chai its sad when one is in a marriage but not married! <br />
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This late Mrs Shonde matter though not a new type of scenario these days has left me pondering at what point exactly does love turn to hate so much so that there will be physical engagement until the other party gets hurt. I initially assumed that it was a fight gone wrong.as per they were arguing and a few slaps occured and she rushed him but fell and broke her skull. Then I stumbled or rather joined a forum where many victims of domestic violence are sharing their experiences. A couple of them have said their spouses actually indicated that they so hated them I.e the wives they wanted to kill them. One said her hubby asked the children to visit a neighbour and he doused her with fuel then lit a cigarette. Another said the hubby keeps aiming for her face with a cutlass. All sorts of horrendous experiences out there. I just don't understand how a relationship would degenerate to that level!<br />
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Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-27935983763384551352016-03-10T11:14:00.001+01:002016-03-10T11:14:21.220+01:00Breather!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Can't believe i'm only just typing my first post for the year in March.<br />
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Na wa oh!<br />
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It's amazing how we can get so so caught up with life and activities!<br />
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I had to take a sudden and hard decision. I quit my job!!!<br />
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Too many issues kept cropping up and i was sad and miserable. My whole life just seemed to be spiraling further out of control.<br />
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Coupled with the fact that at the end of last year i found out i was expecting a baby again.<br />
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I'm hoping the time out before baby's arrival will help me put things in perspective and get a grip towards starting over and so on!<br />
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<br />Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-73161171757107475472015-12-03T15:44:00.001+01:002015-12-03T15:44:46.819+01:00Master toilet?<div>
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Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-19825994345703582572015-12-03T15:43:00.001+01:002015-12-03T15:43:48.575+01:00Training tins#Been "training" my waist all day...<br />
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Nor be small tin oh, "we" chicks dey try truly!<br />
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As for Lagos chicks who successfully wear those monsters for day on end.... i raise my buttocks to una!<br />
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To those with slim/flat bellies, your best bet is to ensure you keep it that way....<br />
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This weight loss meme na real wa!Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-36478253168504581202015-11-26T12:15:00.001+01:002015-11-26T12:15:01.365+01:00100kgThat moment when you step on the scale and your weight has skyrocketed to<br />
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Been barely able to sleep since this happened!!!!!!!<br />
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God help meFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-11509209100319816152015-10-30T15:54:00.000+01:002015-10-30T15:54:01.675+01:00Water memeFor the past day and a half I've had 4 litres of water approximately.....<br />
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I'm really getting serious* with this healthy lifestyle meme...<br />
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Na God go help somebody, na so so piss since morning.<br />
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I wonder if that's a good sign? The pissing i mean, does i mean the fat is being flushed off?????? Because if na so then i can up the warrer to 5 litres daily sef LOL<br />
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It's been such a slow paced day. For some reason i can't recall many of the tasks i have to complete. Should have written them down abi? i kuku wrote them down just don't know if that's the full list and i also don't feel motivated to do the ones on the list sef<br />
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*sighs*<br />
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Make i go piss...<br />
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Anama bia :)<br />
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*that was Igbo/Ibo by the way :DFluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-89062904543999424342015-10-15T16:39:00.002+01:002015-10-15T16:39:28.284+01:00Peppermint.....I'm having some peppermint tea at the moment, hence the title LOL<br />
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My son asked me a few days back why i speak in a different tone when i'm addressing a group of people like in church or something. I asked him how exactly and he said like an American.... I had quite a good laugh... he also added that why don't i speak like that at home? :D Yeye boy.<br />
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Anyway he's still better than that yeye boy on you tube that picked a pack of sanitary towels while shopping with his mum at a supermarket. His words " Don't you use this for your butt"? then he added "sometimes"... you should have seen his face LOL<br />
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I'm amazed that the year has almost come to an end! As we almost always say, where did the days fly by to? Thankful i haven't been hospitalized even once not even the children or hubby!!!! We shouldn't take these things for granted. Not many people have it this smooth, despite how nice an exterior we may put up so many challenges exist around us!<br />
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Living in Lagos alone sef na work!!!!!!!<br />
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Weight nor gree go down oh. I've resorted to one or two meals daily now! I'm hoping to reduce it to one meal eventually until the weight drops.... At a point i was almost getting resigned to being plump :D until i started to hear BP, chest and back pain etc etc i borrowed myself some sense! LOL<br />
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As for work, my boss is still driving my up the wall.... this year sha God will save me from all this brouhaha<br />
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Watched a movie on youtube the other day and a comment from someone who had also watched left me touched and reminded me of the greatness of the Almighty God.<br />
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The main actress in the movie had a dream that all her children will die, she prayed extensively and despite her prayers still experienced great tribulations and difficulty.<br />
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The commenter said that when we have dreams or revelations and pray to ward off the challenges, it will not always prevent us from having the foretold difficult times, it's just to sometimes prepare us and give us strength to bear them! I was moved. Our God is great, even people who serve Him diligently may experience challenges but He will give grace and strength to pass through it all!!!!!!!!<br />
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To anyone going through a challenge, i say to you this day the Almighty God will not leave or forsake you.... You will have a breakthrough in Jesus name<br />
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XOXO!!!!<br />
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I'm outta here<br />
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<br />Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-62961789302483240452015-10-13T14:58:00.001+01:002015-10-13T15:00:37.955+01:00Quag tins again!!!!!!!!!!Living in this country has many ups, the down sides too are just as much or perhaps even more!<br />
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Two Mondays ago, i woke up early, energetic and charged to face the world with a new vigour....<br />
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At 5.30 am i got into traffic and was lost in my thoughts! Next thing some fellow was flashing a torch into my car, i tried to veer off which was impossible as there were cars everywhere and the fellow or fellows(don't even know anymore) smashed my back passenger window and moved my laptop. He also asked for my bag which i handed to him without resistance! I still wish i had a gun on me to fire him straight in the chest....<br />
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It wasn't even 5.35 am and i had been dispossessed of many of my valuables except my life that is,.... i am most grateful. I hear not everyone is luckily to take off with their lives.<br />
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To God be the glory....<br />
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Been traumatized and literally unable to drive since then...<br />
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Some how I've also lost vigor and energy to face life and living as it were....<br />
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I wish the few psychologists we had in Lagos weren't so expensive, i do need therapy.<br />
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<br />Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-19892895544219454152015-09-22T15:37:00.000+01:002015-09-22T15:37:13.348+01:00Quagmire tins#Yesterday i got caught up in a quagmire....<br />
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Heard that word on radio traffic and it's refused to leave my head....<br />
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By some stroke of fortune i decided to pass ikorodu road yesterday. Haven't done so in aeons!<br />
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It was/is a choice i deeply regret. Was in traffic from about 6.30am and arrived work on the island at 11.30am...<br />
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Still shuddering as i type this.<br />
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My mind has been on man and woman tins*** all day, wish i could go back home right now *sighs*<br />
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Wetin i dey type sef? LOL<br />
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*yawns* I wonder what became of Toke and her man? Does anyone know? Pray do tell ;)<br />
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Brain freeze.... will be back ;)<br />
<br />Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-65748340613536155272015-09-17T11:41:00.000+01:002015-09-17T11:41:00.016+01:00Darey.....His new song, "Pray for me" is just sensational. It's playing on repeat on my PC today. Been so for the past hour :D <div>
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Good day today. My boss isn't in town so i have some relative peace. The man literally traumatizes me. The other day he was whining about a staff not responding to him on time. Next thing he says he can be the fellow's grandpa that he was already having wet dreams at age 14, which means he was fertile and so biologically he could father the fellow. </div>
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Fluffycutethinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12668706331094379155noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4816766196182439982.post-80015272431667068712015-07-09T12:02:00.001+01:002015-07-09T16:50:36.145+01:00Sweating it out for your beloved.....My post is inspired by the fact that i had to sweat over a pot of amala for my beloved on Sunday<br />
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*sighs*<br />
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I have begun to ponder on whether a man's assertiveness on his Africanism* is directly or indirectly related to his socio-economic power or otherwise.<br />
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I will explain further!<br />
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Sometimes i see glamorous pictures of weddings with pretty brides and equally handsome grooms on bellanaija.com and the likes.Many of these weddings are also of people i like to describe as rich some noveau rich(whatever that means lol)... Anyway sometimes when i see how pepperless* these brides look i sometimes wonder and ask myself if their husbands expect them to turn amala or semo or wheat or pound yam for them.<br />
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After all it is widely believed and said that African men including their Nigerian counterparts like their spouses to sweat it out in the kitchen for them!<br />
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I was chatting with a rich* male friend of mine and somewhere in the gist, he mentioned having a cook. He didn't seem to mind that someone else was making his meals. whereas on forums like facebook and nairaland you hear the men* going on and on about how their wives must make and serve their meals and the women too go on and on about how no maid(cook) can cook or serve their husbands etc etc .... Could this be because they cannot currently afford a cook?<br />
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I find wealthier men generally more tolerant of modern ways of living in marriage e.g some can fix their meals themselves, perhaps care*(change diapers, feed with bottles etc ) for their little ones should the need arise and there is no domestic help around to do it than their counterparts with not as much economic power....<br />
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And now i'm wondering is it the level of wealth of a Nigerian/African man that makes them more accepting of all the modern ways of doing stuff?<br />
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Or is it not???????<br />
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Some food for thought!<br />
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XOXO<br />
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