Market tins#

*sighs* I wrote my list for the market a few hours ago and i've been filled with trepidation at the thought of going. All that talk talk just drives me nuts. 'how mush* is tomatoes my customer?' last last abeg? ah haba but i bought last week and it was XYZ.... then the trader will rattle on and on about there being no tomatoes in Bauchi and thus the hike.... Then to buy the yams nko? talk less of meat.... those ones are just a dramatic lot, with them lifting the meat with both hands like its a cow and them going on and on and on.....n It's easier to shop at asda or tesco jare. don't know why the cant set up in Nigeria sef and be cheap too LOL Let me go abeg the earlier i start the haggling the berra!!!! Person go still reach house and scrape saki plus pluck ewedu *bigger sighs*

This goodheartedness sef!!!!!!

so yesterday I was fulfilling my one good deed for the day when I offered someone a ride. I knew her from way back she was my senior in secondary school. Ordinarily i'd have driven off and pretended* not to see her but our eyes met and I felt obligated. She got in and said, I cant remember you though your face looks familiar. I said you were my senior in secondary school and we met when you moved into this neighbourhood years back and even showed me your house at the time. she said oooohhhh.... Not sure she still remembered me. she then said 'hey all my mates have bought cars and i'm keeping all my money in the stock exchange' so I smiled and responded with nothing. Then she next asked the usual where do you work etc to which I responded vaguely and next thing she says is do you earn a lot? is your salary 1million naira? I kuku said yes but the way she exclaimed I quickly retorted saying not every month oh I meant per annum. at this point I wished she would get down from the car. she mentioned how fat I am now and asked if I had kids. I said yes. she come say how much do I spend on maintaining my car weekly? ah ah!!!!! I said I didn't know then she said because she's trying to work out costs for if/when she buys a car, that she will also want a driver. wetin concern me with that? she then told me she was saving to relocate..... ........ in the next five years!!!! That she wants to buy property abroad. then she made excuses for her somewhat rough appearance and said oh I look 'neat(cant remember her exact word)' only because I had weaveon fixed that she doesn't fix weave on because it gives her headache.... Mo ma ri ogo oh then she asked why I was living in the local part of our neighbourhood as opposed to in the estate- think ojodu berger versus omole estate. so I said well affordability and she says we can live in a 2 bedroom in the estate as opposed to a bigger place outside. so I explained that I have a help and we have guests frequently, she then said oh I must be "doing well" to have a help. she insisted I gave her my no, I gave her the less frequently used one of course she rang me to ensure i'd have her no.... it'll be saved as do not pick!!!! I hurried her out of my car and drove off without saying bye.... Gooooossssshhhhhh people sef!!!!!!

Seniority matters.......

So I find that my dearest 1st born child who's just 5 years old has suddenly started to send his brother on errands *covers face*. The 'poor submissive' younger brother is only three and doesn't seem to mind running these errands. The errands include getting him water, fetching toys, etc and he says please (sometimes). Now I'm wondering do I wade into this matter or just leave them both? After all I send my younger siblings around even till now LOL. I wont want to undermine my no 1's authority as senior is the reason why I haven't exactly told him to please stop harassing my baby.... Advice needed abeg LOL I'm on a 9 day detox diet... it's only half of day one and im already feeling you know....... hungry. I just must keep up with this weight loss abeg, this constant spilling out of clothes don do.... I had my nails done over the weekend, painted them electric blue ;)yours truly is on fire, next week na green I go paint :D random thoughts as usual. make I go work small brb

Crisis at work

So on Friday I turned to my left and there was my manager bent over a table signing a document. As if it wasn't bad enough that I had his buttocks right in my face. There was a small rip/tear/hole in his trossis. In the anus region to be precise. I buzzed my best friend she usually has good advice for me. I shared the dilemma with her, she then advised that to aid my promotion and boost my appraisal scores I should tell him. And so........

Issues of life?

Working in a small organization exposes you to such a high level of politicking that its almost sickening on some days. It's concerns me even more when people are at the apex of thier careers and still demonstrate a complete lack of integrity, as well as divide and rule technique amongst staff. It's disgusting to me and unfortunately I have found myself in this system for a bit too long! So unhappy at my situation today!

All is well

It's part of the learning curve 

My mind abi na heart has strayed in the past few weeks, I truly salute every one who has stayed faithful in thier relationships even when things are tough. This does not mean I have strayed oh! 

I had an interesting discourse with some family members the other day. We were talking about an uncle of ours who's currently the chairman of a multinational. My maternal grandpa sent him to school. The co-discussants were of the opinion that the man should be more helpful towards family members especially folks like my mum. Their point being that it is afterall thanks to my grandad that the man was educated in the 1st place. But I'm like should anyone be indebted forever? I certainly agree that he should give back to my mum in anyway he can buts the extent is now completely left to him in my humble opinion. In the same vein someone who my mum helped to educate is now been proposed to be her caregiver at this time that she needs one. I feel the girl has her life to live and shouldn't be pressured into giving back in this form. If she freely suggests such then fine if not then we explore other options. We cannot go through life completely indebted to all our helpers as far as I'm concerned. I know in the case of the uncle/multinational company chairman he's so wealthy that even giving my mum 10k pounds monthly isn't far fetched, but that he's not doing so doesn't make him the bad guy. 

I ended that Conversation that day reminding everyone that these expectations they have of that man for eg are the same expectations people are likely to have of them and how many really are they able to meet up? Even in thier own little way!

It's also disappointing to note that the very acts one condemns in other people calling them uncivilized and greedy are apparently present in one's own backyard. I lost an uncle and was most disappointed to hear that even in my own elite family there has been a scramble for the wealth he left behind!!! 

This life sef 

Mind over matter???

Life does change when you're a mum.
We went for a birthday party today and I actually got up to try and get party packs for my boys. infant when Tlash didn't get a particular gift he wanted I actually went to ask the hostess if she had a spare. I'd never have imagined that I would do such. Mcheeewwww
The title of my post is called mind over matter and its been long over due if you ask me.i once read an article in Genevieve magazine with that title. The lady writer was the girlfriend ie mistress of a married man and she says one of the secrets of her successful relationship with him was this mind over matter principle. The morality of her/the relationship will be discussed in another forum or post. The said principle is the bone of contention here.
The way it works is "as the female in the/any relationship" one must chose which issues to battle out. So for example where her man doesn't come visiting as scheduled she usually pretends it doesn't matter and she won't make a fuss or quarrel when he shows up. She says this earned her loads of respect, peace and perhaps some level of bliss in her relationship.
Now anyone knows that being in a serious relationship/marriage can be extremely harrowing where and when expectations aren't constantly being met. So I'm wondering to which matters exactly does one decide to apply mind over matter to?
Living with a man has shown and taught me that any and everything could be potential crisis triggers and indeed there are MANY matters to constantly deal with.
I for example detest lingering repairs. Especially when affordability isn't the issue. My spouse on the other hand stayed in a room without a bulb for close to a year because he couldn't be bothered to change the burnt/dead bulb. I chose mind over matter that period and didn't say a word about it and at his chosen time which was a year plus (or thereabouts) he changed the bulb. He feels certain things are more important to him than changing bulbs or ensuring the house is in some order of sorts. When I take charge of those kind of matters he is of course quick to enjoy the benefits. In my head, repairs for eg belong to the menfolk. But for the sake of peace do I "'mind over matter?"
For a wife who's spouse comes home late More often than not, all in the guise of work, should she for eg imbibe this mind over matter principle? Even when she's genuinely concerned about his safety or worried that God forbid he's spending time with a unilag gal or his colleague who's younger,perhaps prettier and supposedly generally hawter than she is?
money matters nko? If your hubby is a stingikoko do you just adjust your life accordingly or do you hassle his ass until he comes to term with the current economic realities of our country?
of course the less vocal and more accepting wives are usually praised as good stock and virtuous women. These are perhaps the real mind over matter women who leave it all in the hands of fate.
What am I writing sef, wonder if it makes any sense, make I sha dey type dey go.
The lady in the original article encouraged wives to imbibe this modus operandi but you see it was easier for her to perhaps stomach the man's nonsense because they're together for "short" periods anyway. And all men have varying degrees of nonsense and I'm sure i'll have a few supporters in saying that in the face of constant issues in any relationship especially marriage mind over matter while a good tool isn't one so easy to adopt.
My two cents!

A seat finally!

I finally have been assigned one at work! I'm off to pop some champagne LOL. Now I wonder how long it'll take before I get a computer assigned :D I understand history has been taken off the curriculum for secondary schools. I suspect it's been a while but I wish it hadn't. Somehow I just feel the children are being short hanged and believe it or not, not all of our history in these parts have made it to the Internet! I hope the government revises the policy in the near future. I will have to come back and finish p this post