So i live in a face me i face you :D
Maybe i should even start a series on all my co-tenants!!!!
We've got 5 tenants in all....
Some co-tenant of mine whom i have a relationship with i.e we greet when passing each other in the yard ;)
She calls me aunty and considering she's married and probably 25ish i feel embarassed as in her calling me aunty probably means she thinks i'm veeeerrrrrryyyy old or something.
Anyway she sometimes brings her food over for storage in my freezer during long power outtages. She's got a small gen that obviously cant power her generator....
So that's about how much we relate- barely!!!
She's got a niece who's about Ayobami's age, so when the girl comes around they play together. I usually dont mind. Anyway i recently realised that my neigbour and her sister(the mother of the little girl) obviously have no respect for boundaries or just choose to behave badly.
I find that the occasional visits from the little girl usually stretches into hours and hours. I feel it isnt proper to fob your child on people you barely know. To further buttress my point this was what happened a few weeks back
My neighbour comes and says " oh Aunty i need to quickly dash off to XYZ please can "little girl" stay here till her mum arrives at 10 or was it 11 am(cant remember well now) . This was probably around 9am ish. anyway i say no problem...
1pm and the girl mama never show. so i'm like wetin be this one now? meanwhile i don dey tire to do babysitter. I didnt even have the aunty or the mother's telephone no sef...
sha at about 2pm ish i send the kids down to ride bicycles and generally just get a breather, then i see little girl's mother about to go out!!! And then she says" ah i knocked on your door and no one answered" i want to go and make my hair. SHE MAKES NO MOVE WHATSOEVER TO TAKE HER CHILD ALONG.
i no talk.....
At about 7pm i was still saddled with this girl, aunty i no see, mama i no see. By this time i was furious and my voice don change... d gal sef don see as i change she begin cry. So i felt bad and calmed down a bit. I started getting the boys ready for bed and just left the girl in the living room, then her mum came and she refused to follow her or something like that and the mama turn back....
Ah ah see me see something. Of course i charged and asked my maid to take her home only for that one too to come back and say nobody dey there...
I went straight to another neighbour to ask if she had their no just as i was still getting that information, the mother returned and i told her, the little girl was crying and i didnt know what to do....
You'd think they wouldnt show up at my door again abi?
One fine evening the boys were playing downstairs and little girl and her mother were passing by, next thing she leaves the girl and wakas off. By 7pm when i asked the boys to come in, her mama still never return. I ask my maid to stay downstairs with her. Like half an hour after i start thinking mosquitoes will be biting the poor child lemme ask them to come in....
Rain starts threatening to fall and her mother appears.... the girl once again refuses to follow her mother and the woman strolls off. This is past 8pm oh!!!!
I no just talk na look i dey look them. Thankfully she starts to cry again so i march straight down to call her mother oh, luckily she was there!!!
The next time we ran into the little girl, i sent her right back before she will have to spend the night in my house mccchhhheeeewwww
My hubby was there and he felt i shouldnt have sent her back. I did it tactfully mind you. This kain "oh little girl we are going home now, see you later"
He is of the opinion that it was the girl's refusal to go home that caused her mum to leave her with us endlessly. I am of the opinion that you should draw limits and boundaries for children especially when they're so little.
Moreso i barely know these people!!! I dont know their surnames sef so its not like we are friends in the first place.
what say ye?
N.B- Didnt realise the story would turn out this lenghthy!!!
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I say...KJRRJ! Ko jo rara joo!!!
What is that?! Ha! No mother like my mother! My mother told me at some point that wherever I may be, once the lights in her kitchen come on for the evening, I have to be home. Refusal meant plenty pankere...bear in mind that she was a teacher then. What sort of mother is that one?!
It is better you have begun to curtail it like that sha cos before you know it, you will become Mama little girl..
I am still wondering what sort of mother "little girl"s" mum is. And where is little girl's dad? Doesn't he have a problem with the fact that his daughter is being foisted on other people?
leave pikin with u for what? make who get load carry am. But maybe thats her only child and the pikin gets lonely thats whey she sends her off to u...i really dont know what to say sef!
I agree with you, its not your responsibility. And as for the little girl refusing to come home....all my mom had to do was look at me and I would have followed her!
It's crazy that she "drops" her off without even speaking with u first. That's just crazy to me. What if something happens to the child while she's under your care? You know you would be responsible right?
She should at least be courteous enough to talk to you first and have the commonsense to know when to take her child back.
Like Sting, that's what I don't understand. How can she walk off leaving the child with just other children? Na wa.
Sometimes when I hear things like this, I am so pissed. How would someone just leave her child in the care of other people just cos they are neighbors who has kids? And when they eventually find you to come carry your child, you say cos the child says she will not go home, you will leave her there? Having children is not just in name or the joy that you are called mama-this, it is also a lot of responsibility. Just like Madam Sting said, if anything should happen to the child now,they will hold you responsible. I am not in support of that kind of thing o. I will not blame the child for not wanting to go with her mom, she enjoys herself at your place.
Draw the line, you're not a creche owner! Its risky what if something happened to her? Abeg if God dey watch person make we sef dey watch ourselves!
Honeydame- Dont really know the 411 as per her dad i see him come around as well when the girl and her mum visit my cotenant, but who knows maybe they share the same ideologies?
LOL @ your mum, no wat to behave badly as an omo teacher!!!
rethots-na so me too kuku see the matter
sisi Yemmie- I dont even have a problem with the kids playing together but should be within reasonable hours, loneliness or not!!!
pretty lashes- LOL thought only my mum could give those looks!!!
Madame Sting & Myne - I'm with you totally, because i wont even think of doing it i really dont understand how she is able to!!!
Okeoghene- my dear hubby was at first in her support as per "oh, but you can see it was the little girl who didnt want to go". so i asked him if his own children would do such and he would go along with such behaviour, then he kept mute!!!! Our parents set boundaries for us and that's why we turned out this way. To think we are not even totally perfect, now imagine if no boundaries were set?
P.E.T- I certainly have done so oh!!if this was someone i was close to then i'd know i have no "choice" but i'm certainly not running a creche!!!
Your neighbor has no shame o. She is just happily taking advantage of your niceness. Abeg, make she carry her daughter jor. First time here and following.
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I say you get patience. True back in the day all the kids play outside together and everybody troops over to the house of whichever mama cook first but these days its called baby sitting and it ain't free.
once in a while, its ok but haba all day? Wetin the girl chop?
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