Quag tins again!!!!!!!!!!

Living in this country has many ups, the down sides too are just as much or perhaps even more!

Two Mondays ago, i woke up early, energetic and charged to face the world with a new vigour....

At 5.30 am i got into traffic and was lost in my thoughts! Next thing some fellow was flashing a torch into my car, i tried to veer off which was impossible as there were cars everywhere and the fellow or fellows(don't even know anymore) smashed my back passenger window and moved my laptop. He also asked for my bag which i handed to him without resistance! I still wish i had a gun on me to fire him straight in the chest....

It wasn't even 5.35 am and i had been dispossessed of many of my valuables except my life that is,.... i am most grateful. I hear not everyone is luckily to take off with their lives.

To God be the glory....

Been traumatized and literally unable to drive since then...

Some how I've also lost vigor and energy to face life and living as it were....

I wish the few psychologists we had in Lagos weren't so expensive, i do need therapy.

Quagmire tins#

Yesterday i got caught up in a quagmire....

Heard that word on radio traffic and it's refused to leave my head....

By some stroke of fortune i decided to pass ikorodu road yesterday. Haven't done so in aeons!

It was/is a choice i deeply regret. Was in traffic from about 6.30am and arrived work on the island at 11.30am...

Still shuddering as i type this.

My mind has been on man and woman tins*** all day, wish  i could go back home right now *sighs*

Wetin i dey type sef? LOL

*yawns* I wonder what became of Toke and her man? Does anyone know? Pray do tell ;)

Brain freeze.... will be back ;)

Darey.....

His new song, "Pray for me" is just sensational. It's playing on repeat on my PC today. Been so for the past  hour :D 

First heard it while driving to work and literally went into a trance! I should have married the fellow jare. His voice and that face.....

LOL 

Good day today. My boss isn't in town so i have some relative peace. The man literally traumatizes me. The other day he was whining about a staff not responding to him on time. Next thing he says he can be the fellow's grandpa that he was already having wet dreams at age 14, which means he was fertile and so biologically he could father the fellow. 

*sighs* Ask me again why i still work here?

Brb 

Sweating it out for your beloved.....

My post is inspired by the fact that i had to sweat over a pot of amala for my beloved on Sunday

*sighs*

I have begun to ponder on whether a man's assertiveness on his Africanism* is directly or indirectly related to his socio-economic power or otherwise.

I will explain further!

Sometimes i see glamorous pictures of  weddings with pretty brides and equally handsome grooms on bellanaija.com and the likes.Many of these weddings are also of people i like to describe as rich some noveau rich(whatever that means lol)... Anyway sometimes when i see how pepperless* these brides look i sometimes wonder and ask myself if their husbands expect them to turn amala or semo or wheat or pound yam for them.

After all it is widely believed and said that African men including their  Nigerian counterparts  like their spouses to sweat it out in the kitchen for them!

I was chatting with a rich* male friend of mine and somewhere in the gist, he mentioned having a cook. He didn't seem to mind that someone else was making his meals. whereas on forums like facebook and nairaland you hear the men* going on and on about how their wives must make and serve their meals and the women too go on and on about how no maid(cook) can cook or serve their husbands etc etc .... Could this be because they cannot currently afford a cook?

I find wealthier men generally more tolerant of modern ways of living in marriage e.g some can fix their meals themselves, perhaps care*(change diapers, feed with bottles etc ) for their little ones should the need arise and there is no domestic help around to do it than their counterparts with not as much economic power....

And now i'm wondering is it the level of wealth of a Nigerian/African man that makes them more accepting of all the modern ways of doing stuff?

Or is it not???????

Some food for thought!

XOXO

New Post

If only i could blog immediately i get inspired for a new post.... then i wont have to be cracking my head on what to write about.... *sighs*

The support staff in my office are driving me nuts. I wish my oga wasn't such a cheap skate at least one would be able to employ semi-professionals for these odd jobs mcheeeewww The nitwits can make one's hair stand.

These days i feel a bit lonely. Mid last year one or two of the friends i valued deeply had started to behave in really odd ways. It made me cut back a bit on relating with them and vice versa. I have searched my conscience and i'm clear that i havent done wrong.. it's just a drifting apart. Doesn't make the loneliness easier anyway....

The boys are fine. Still as mischievous :D  Looked at no 1 this morning and was surprised at how much he and indeed No 2 have grown up! if only they would stop sleeping in my bed *sighs* 

Today wasn't so exciting at work. Not much happened... just work work and more work

So much on the mind and i don't even know how to frame the words!

Still on the transformation path.. It's a slow transformation of my living arrangement but it's happening nonetheless. The battle of the bulge seems not to be happening as at now. My weight has skyrocketed and i just feel out of sorts on the subject. I wanna adopt a complete wholesome lifestyle change and i'm still hoping this year i will get on the track somehow. It's a mind over matter really... Fingers crossed on the subject.

I still find myself at cross roads on some issues though and sometimes i really wonder whether i'm going or i'm coming!

New Age meme!!!!!!

I turn 35 in a few weeks and i'm suddenly filled with trepidation at the thought *sighs*

Culture vs Common Sense

I realized today that the office assistant in my organisation has still not buried his mother.

She passed away after an illness in June 2014. Their culture I understand states that there must be some ceremonies (i.e. party,as far as i am concerned) as part of the funeral rites. So, to give some time for her children/other family members to raise funds the funeral was scheduled for December 2014.

It didn’t make any sense to me. I felt and still feel they should have buried the woman and have the party or parties or funeral rites whenever they can. But I don’t think any of them quite explored that option.

Unfortunately tragedy struck as they were headed for his mum’s burial in December. His sister unexpectedly  passed away. All the funds raised immediately had to be diverted to transporting her remains home and towards her own funeral.

I remembered this whole thing yesterday and it occurred to me his mum is still in the morgue. Didn't any of their family members just see that in the light of this tragedy both should have been buried and they can have the funeral rites for the mother whenever they’re able to?

Again this family isn't  high up on the income  ladder! 

From my interactions with the gentleman it seems they feel constrained by extended family members and the dictates of their culture. But surely their common sense should count for something now? Abi?