Mind over matter???

Life does change when you're a mum.
We went for a birthday party today and I actually got up to try and get party packs for my boys. infant when Tlash didn't get a particular gift he wanted I actually went to ask the hostess if she had a spare. I'd never have imagined that I would do such. Mcheeewwww
The title of my post is called mind over matter and its been long over due if you ask me.i once read an article in Genevieve magazine with that title. The lady writer was the girlfriend ie mistress of a married man and she says one of the secrets of her successful relationship with him was this mind over matter principle. The morality of her/the relationship will be discussed in another forum or post. The said principle is the bone of contention here.
The way it works is "as the female in the/any relationship" one must chose which issues to battle out. So for example where her man doesn't come visiting as scheduled she usually pretends it doesn't matter and she won't make a fuss or quarrel when he shows up. She says this earned her loads of respect, peace and perhaps some level of bliss in her relationship.
Now anyone knows that being in a serious relationship/marriage can be extremely harrowing where and when expectations aren't constantly being met. So I'm wondering to which matters exactly does one decide to apply mind over matter to?
Living with a man has shown and taught me that any and everything could be potential crisis triggers and indeed there are MANY matters to constantly deal with.
I for example detest lingering repairs. Especially when affordability isn't the issue. My spouse on the other hand stayed in a room without a bulb for close to a year because he couldn't be bothered to change the burnt/dead bulb. I chose mind over matter that period and didn't say a word about it and at his chosen time which was a year plus (or thereabouts) he changed the bulb. He feels certain things are more important to him than changing bulbs or ensuring the house is in some order of sorts. When I take charge of those kind of matters he is of course quick to enjoy the benefits. In my head, repairs for eg belong to the menfolk. But for the sake of peace do I "'mind over matter?"
For a wife who's spouse comes home late More often than not, all in the guise of work, should she for eg imbibe this mind over matter principle? Even when she's genuinely concerned about his safety or worried that God forbid he's spending time with a unilag gal or his colleague who's younger,perhaps prettier and supposedly generally hawter than she is?
money matters nko? If your hubby is a stingikoko do you just adjust your life accordingly or do you hassle his ass until he comes to term with the current economic realities of our country?
of course the less vocal and more accepting wives are usually praised as good stock and virtuous women. These are perhaps the real mind over matter women who leave it all in the hands of fate.
What am I writing sef, wonder if it makes any sense, make I sha dey type dey go.
The lady in the original article encouraged wives to imbibe this modus operandi but you see it was easier for her to perhaps stomach the man's nonsense because they're together for "short" periods anyway. And all men have varying degrees of nonsense and I'm sure i'll have a few supporters in saying that in the face of constant issues in any relationship especially marriage mind over matter while a good tool isn't one so easy to adopt.
My two cents!

A seat finally!

I finally have been assigned one at work! I'm off to pop some champagne LOL. Now I wonder how long it'll take before I get a computer assigned :D I understand history has been taken off the curriculum for secondary schools. I suspect it's been a while but I wish it hadn't. Somehow I just feel the children are being short hanged and believe it or not, not all of our history in these parts have made it to the Internet! I hope the government revises the policy in the near future. I will have to come back and finish p this post

Bits and bobs ..... Part 2

So I've managed to take 30minutes walks like thrice per week for 2 weeks running now! Yay!!! I feel lighter and my body doesn't hurt as much as when I first started it. Next area to make further progress on is in my room, wardrobe has been de-cluttered but the rest of the house is still n bad shape *sighs* I don't even have an excuse. Meanwhile is it ok to put a tiny cactus plant in the toilet?on the WC or In a corner? Would colored pebbles be better? Though that's at the risk of my boys flushing the stones down the toilet LOL there's already a small a basket of pot pourri on the wc by the way. I think it's because I'm watching clean house that I'm having these thoughts today :D That was a few days ago,I'm continuing from where I paused..... I just left one very nice office gosh fine fine boys all over the place *sighs lustily* lol People do the strangest things! I took a cabucabu the other day from Ikeja to Alausa,it cost N70. I asked the driver to take me further for an extra N700, by coincidence a co-passenger was going that way. I said oh we can split he fare after negotiating and the only response she gave was its too expensive. But she didnt get off. When we reached her drop off point she handed me N300, even though it wasn't equally split I didn't mind. Then the cab man says how about the 70bucks for the previous ride. Her response left me and the driver in shock. She said oh that's why she gave me N300. This kain with a fare of N700 for the ride she planned to pay only N230. Mcheeeeewwwww I was so ashamed of her I paid the driver on her behalf. Didn't even catch a glimpse of her face. Yeye gal I feel it was more a case of her being dubious Than actually not having enough to pay. The weight loss matters are progressing nicely, I'm getting more comfortable with reduced portions and have started to fit one at a time into my old trousers. Na this my belle be major source of trauma now lol So dame P was dead and is now alive? Wonder why our First Ladies must sha be a source of drama around here. This Goldie matter na wa oh! I pity denrele so much, can't imagine losing any of my buddies and so so suddenly at that. I'm so sleepy here today but must be this heat wave all over Lagos, I miss the rains o jare. My landlord is on a high, he's just sold off one unused portion of the compound for over 10million naira. He's so high he's decided to build four flats with 2bedrooms behind the main building where I live. The challenge is there's barely any air, and now we have to contend with a building so close if we both have push out windows they'll keep hitting themselves. Infact if I become friendly with any of the new tenants I can stand at my window and have a conversation with them lol God help us, moving isn't an immediate option because of the financial implications, I hear 3bedroom flats in Lagos cost well over 1million naira now. *sighs* At work things are still just as crazy these days I look in pure amusement at the madness. Nope I still don't have a seat assigned to me for the third year running. All sorts Feel sleepy will be back *winks*

Bits n bob

What a week last week was!
No baddies thankfully.
It was plagued with some really bad grammatical issues though. I tend to agree with the DG of NYSC who says most graduates can't read or write. I mean my colleague asked me to read the "mail tray below" . Can't blame anyone though the conditions for learning in many places are extremely bad. I also stumbled on some pictures of police in training college. *sighs* they really can't behave any better than they do if one considers the crappy training they receive. Saturday I spent cleaning,cleaning and still cleaning! I still didn't get my outstanding chores completed though, at a point I abandoned the project and went to lie down, i am still lying down. Brokeness too isn't helping my cause *sighs*
Ok that was two weeks ago! Thankfully all is still well here it's a bit slow drama wise *winks*
My boss has assured me I will be getting a a seat soon, fingers crossed people LOL
I emptied my wardrobe and de-cluttered my kitchen store, it's part of my resolutions to move closer to becoming a diva! The weight loss is coming on fine too, 5kg off so far. Since November 2012!!!!!! Slow and steady is winning this race oh

No gist per se lemme run off

Fluffycutething -solicitors and barristers

I just finished doing lawyer on the bus. A accident occurred between a lady's car and man's car. I had been watching and feeling bad because I knew that if she didn't get back up soon she would ended up being cheated because she is a woman One yeye man on the bus now said it's the woman's fault and that the men were just being soft/nice I was so irritated I started yelling you're just talking like that because its a woman involved The men were at fault can't you see their car was on the line and not on a proper lane. I was livid Didn't even realize I was yelling so much then I saw everyone was staring and so i quickly turned to "face my front" Now I'm embarrassed and feel like getting off at the next bus stop LOL

Mr and mrs matters

Loving to excesses?

These are just some of my random thoughts on a matter of love I recently stumbled on!

So mrs X is your regular joe! Dated her mr for a couple of years before settling with him and so on. Happy at least to an extent. Only snag is that mr isn't doing too well financially. So she's more or less breadwinner! Not an unusual story abi?

They decide to relocate for greener pastures and mr's finances pick up though she's still doing the heavy lifting. Then maybe because he has some "change" to spare he begins to womanize.mrs X is very worried, she is frantic infact. She's never seen her mr this way before. They start to quarrel over his late nights and odd phone calls.

One night it gets really bad and he hits her and hurts her in the process.she wants to leave him. I say well you can't leave  if  you aren't empowered ie you'll have to rent a place, n care for yourself at least until things are sorted. So be patient maybe things will even eventually be sorted.

Imagine my shock when she said she had a discussion with him and pleaded(that's my headache particularly) with him to work things out!

While I am happy that they're now at peace, I was a bit disappointed that she resorted to pleading. Is this a case of stooping to conquer or plain foolishness???
Hope it's not too early in the year for this kind of talk oh LOL