Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Birthday tins#

i have just turned 34.....

....today;)


this gal is becoming old oh LOL

Monday, 9 June 2014

Submissivenesss or just plain old.....

..... Stupidity?

My mum's tenant has just moved out. While they lived there, the relationship was seemingly cordial. At least there were no apparent glitches, in fact the family(excluding husband though) regularly had meals in our house! I could enumerate several other ways in which they benefited from  the relationship- help to pick their children from school, assistance in running errands and so on. Then they came with good news!  They had just completed their building project.

Suddenly the reason their rent was at several different times paid in bits made sense. They were investing in their project  and delaying rent etc etc. No wahala they are sha leaving abi?

Few days after they moved i strolled in to assess the place and see what needs to be repaired or upgraded etc etc. What i saw was quite embarrassing and most disgusting. The place was filled with filth that  i couldn't imagine that these people could/would/should have been living with. it was like an incinerator- no joke.

In my fury i called the Mrs. Luckily she didn't pick my call, i arranged for the place to be cleaned up and that took 3 days. Imagine the pile.

Did i add that their outstanding  NEPA bill(unpaid) was in excess of N20,000? When my called the husband, he sent someone with the cash, meaning my mum should sojourn to NEPA office herself, sort the bills and re-connection matters abi?

At this point i knew i had to speak up about the issue so i did.

Got the Mrs on phone and told her i was displeased about the mess as well as the nepa issue. Especially as the man wasnt decent enough to come and resolve it himself. Her next words completely left me speechless.

She said it wasnt "her fault". That because she's pregnant her husband did the bulk of moving the items and she claimed she had arranged for some fellow to come and clean up alongside her husband who said he wanted to search through the pile in case there is any important item dropped in the rubble. But they returned the key and said goodbye????????????????

In  addition she said she mentioned to her husband that even though he didnt relate much with my mum, she and the children did so  and as such he should ensure the place is tidied and nepa bills sorted but the man didn't listen and she didnt want to seem "un-submissive" or like she was challenging his authority.

I find this plain stupid!!!

Are we to let our husbands be foolish or act irrationally because we are being submissive?

If she didn't agree on his stance as regards clean up could she not have made arrangements even if without his consent? Seeing as that is the right thing!!!!!!

i hope i get people's perspectives on this subject and perhaps examples. But for me i would chose doing the right thing over submissiveness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Tuesday, 13 May 2014

Yes!!!

My story too will change for good very soon in  Jesus name !


AMMMMEEEEENNNNN


Just felt a strong urge to put that up

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Personal or not???????

I'm quite an amiable fellow. Mostly agreeable to people and a ,firm believer in and of good friendships.

As expected I've gotten burnt a couple of times and while i do try, i cannot authoritatively say I've been 100% to all my friends. Surely i too have some shortcomings. 

However i do find myself wondering at some occurrences that seem to repeat themselves around me all in the name of this friendship. 

I hope this my intro is apt sef. 

A really good pal of mine has a habit of never mentioning her trips to me. I find it absurd. Especially when we could have been chatting up to an hour before the said trip(s). It makes me wonder, do people really prefer such information to be private? Are my expectations unreasonable? 

My sister's husband did it a couple of times and my dear sister said "oh well, they prefer their family issues private". The 1st time it happened they came to ask my mum to baby sit because my sister was away, next thing hubby too carries bag that he 'suddenly' has to go to SA. And i'm like why all the secrecy?. They even had the nerve to tell my mum that he only just got a visa, like he got the thing in the morning and wanted to travel that same night.... mcheeewwww. His second trip he called to say goodbye from the airport. Another trip he didn't even mention but returned with T-shirts for family members. 

My brother says he's allowed to do that, he is after all not a direct relative in the true sense of it. 

Back to my friend. 

She was relocating to another town and she only just told me after it had been done. I felt bad. Months after when i took her up on it, she said all the circumstances surrounding the move were embarrassing and it was a difficult time for her so she didn't/couldn't share. i disagreed. At the time i knew she wanted to take a trip and was even involved in sourcing funds!!!! then she got some cash moved and didn't even have the decency to bring it up! i thought she was coming for a holiday and didn't realize it was a relocation!!!!

Again it has happened. She was out of town for a bit, and we were in touch throughout. Even up until yesterday evening. Imagine my shock when a mutual friend just rang me to say oh did i know she was back in town this morning?

Called another random friend of mine, who said i'd buzz you later, i'm boarding a plane to the UK. Even though i felt quite slighted i still haven't discussed it till date. 

I'm quite annoyed and wondering what all the secrecy in this type of info is. Am i being too nosy here?

Monday, 24 March 2014

"And co"

On Sunday in  church, one man strolled in wearing a white shirt and black trousers. Normally he'd be dressed in ankara sewn into buba and sokoto, his wife would also wear some ankara and even if not the same fabric design it'll be same colours or at least similar( you get the drift). So when he strolled in on Sunday, i wondered what his wife would wear!!! 

She came in a few minutes after wearing a suit! Since then, I've been wondering how exactly do 'and co' couples work it out? Does one person say- dear we are wearing 'our' brown fabric today? or does one person pick out the clothes and that's it? do they have like a meeting where clothes for the week are picked out? 

How exactly does it work? what if one person genuinely doesn't like it? Will he/she say so? and risk the other person getting/feeling hurt? 

It also brings to mind couples that eat thier meals from the same plates (as often as they can)..... 

i'm not against any of these displays of affection/love oh i'm just wondering how it's done. 

Are there any couples here who practise these? or other/near in nature/similar stuff? 

Do share your stories!!!!

For some reason i think Ibiluv would be guilty of one or more of these stuff ;)

Tuesday, 18 March 2014

Gist.....

A few days ago my son asked me why boys and girls say 'hey' when they're dancing..... I couldn't stop laughing especially seeing as i am guilty of the same offence
This morning he wanted to know why women have to wear breast hangers(don't ask me LOL) on thier breasts and i promptly told him it's because we need somewhere to 'hang' our boobies :D Abi?

I'm having my lunch right now.... garri and moin moin! Care for some? Lunch was nice.... hmmmmmm 

Not sure i can get any more work done today sha, not after this amount of food is sitting in my tummy  *sighs*

My brain has paused.... will be back ;)