Tuesday, 9 December 2014

2014: The highs and the lows!

What a year....

It seems just like yesterday where we were wishing each other a happy new year!

I'm particularly thankful to God, not once this year was my freezer or my kitchen empty of food.

I also didn't spend any night in hospital on account of ill health, my boys or their dad too :)

God was indeed merciful, for the areas i lacked or didn't meet my goals or expectations there is plenty more to be grateful for once i just look to the other side!

I seize this opportunity to again appreciate the Almighty God, thank you Lord.

One of the many achievements of mine this year is that i have now learnt how to separate emotions from common sense. It took me many long years but i am now on that path and i tell you it's certainly a rewarding path to be on! Prior to now i would use my emotions to make many decisions especially in the area of friendships. I would delve in head first as long as it was to the benefit of my friend. After being bitten in the face severally i have now finally learnt to be wise.

One or two friendships have of course now been lost* due to this. Naturally ..... LOL

One friendship fizzled away, cant even fathom why anymore(i tried to work out the reason for a long time) but i guess as Yoruba people say 20 children cannot play together for 20 years!! Some will move onto other things!

This year(in the last quarter) i also learnt to pay more attention to self. In the area of external aesthetics i haven't always paid attention to myself and having kids just made it worse*.  Before i check my clothes, or my needs i spend the little i have on the boys! Typical abi? In the last quarter i resolved to correct this, and slowly and steadily i am making progress, nothing remarkable but the journey of a thousand miles begins with a step abi?

Maybe i should do part 2 of this post its getting quite long LOL

So what you you learnt or improved on or otherwise in 2014? Please do share!!!

Monday, 10 November 2014

Old age???????

Yesterday I went to see a friend who had recently lost her dad in tragic circumstances. As I walked into the house, I met her mum finishing off a meal complete with an apple and a bottle of coke. Nothing unusual one might add, but my first thought was how can this woman who has just lost her beloved hubby eat like this? While watching BBA for that matter!!!. After a few moments I wondered why I had such thoughts, I mean is she supposed to starve herself because her hubby had passed away? Then I realised that these are the kind of thoughts that one has after being rubbed off from interactions with archaic cultures and traditions. What really has become of me? LOL Is this old age?
In other news yours truly took a road walk yesterday. I probably walked 5km at the least. I’m still feeling the pain in my legs. I hope I can keep this up, I really dislike the way I pant even after shedding some of the kg. And I’m certainly not keen on buying any bigger dress sizes. I suspect clothes manufacturers intentionally make all the fine fine ladies clothes in small sizes :D
 The year is winding down so quickly. I’m trying to plan for 2015 early enough. Not sure I did a good job with my plans and projections for this year… One achievement is that I finally seem* to have a grasp on minimal quarrelling with my spouse. Mind over matter really works :D!!! To all the new wives, don’t sweat the small stuff with your man, there’s no point and there are more important things to sweat ;)

Let me concentrate on this meeting I’m sitting in.

XOXO


UPDATE: Meeting never gree finish oh, this is 3 hours on.... God help me this week

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

No title.....

I should take more pictures one of the ways to record precious moments is through pictures,that was a random thought.
I've stayed away from here for too long life and its many distractions. *sighs*
Didn't get the house done up as planned, my younger brother had to travel abroad for school, I sacrificed my cash as support for him, irony of life is that a few years down the line he may or may not remember this gesture *sighs again*
One of the thoughts that has plagued me recently is dealing with a cheating partner especially in Africa where our culture is so accepting of it when the offender is a male. A beloved friend and sister is in this situation and has tried fighting her man, fighting the lady/mistress/girlfriend, pleading with her man to stop and so on. All these have been to no avail, and it has left me pondering really what does one do with a philandering man? Sometimes leaving the union is not immediately feasible especially where there are children or there's no economic power to do so..... I have also been faced with this scenario and find myself seemingly hapless!!!!!
On the other hand my diet and eating habits modifications are kinda taking effect, I'd like to exercise at home but just find it kinda boring.... I am now 88kg from the initial 94kg where I started off from.
Things at work have taken an interesting turn apparently everyone is sleeping with everyone and I was the only one oblivious to this fact LOL na wa

Monday, 25 August 2014

Ramblings of an idle mind.

Yep... idle even though today is Monday!


I've just stumbled on the blogspot of someone i kinda knew(from afar) as a toddler. Damn i am quite old. I wonder if it's ok for me to still be blogging sef, a number of people i started this blogging race with all seemed to have fizzled out or is it moved onto other stuff?

Nah... i'll stay i kinda enjoy putting my thoughts out there for whoever to read and enjoy.. At least i hope some people enjoy reading it LOL

Is putting up office gist on a personal blog gossip? Just got some random gist that i wanna spill but don't want to be offensive.... The summary is that we had a cleaning assistant turned clerk here some years back. She got pregnant, said she was married but there was no ceremony per se! She resigned suddenly on grounds of needing extra maternity leave and not having anyone to care for baby etc etc. Imagine my shock when i recently found out that father of baby is actually one of the managers here!!!! He's single though. Now he shows up today to say he's married. Then i heard it's this same lady he has married..... Of course he's probably too embarrassed to admit she's his wife now. He didn't invite anyone to the ceremony or whatever it was they did to symbolize the union. I wonder for how long he can keep up the charade????????? Wont he ever put a pic of her? Wont anyone ever visit him at home?

Anyway na thier palaver....

The things that men do........

I looked* at myself on Sunday and wondered what has become of me. I barely recognise myself anymore. Marriage, its attendant challenges, motherhood, losing a job and taking a lesser* type has completely subsumed me over the past few years.

I'd like to restart/reset/revamp myself. Is this possible? For a start i'm redoing my living area. Over the next few weeks i'm getting the house repainted and redecorated etc etc. I hope to put up pics. Infact today i better take some pics to use as the before* pics and then i'd take after when the work is done.

I hope by penning it down i'd follow through on my new resolve/committments.

Gotta go Ciao XOXO

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Randoms....


Yesterday morning at about 6am, I overheard my boys arguing.. the smaller individual who's four said that girls dont have peepees. The older individual who's 5 going 6 insisted that of course they have, i was in a dilemma do I butt in and end up late at work or i just leave them to come to their own conclusions LOL... I ran off to my office quietly, i mean it was only 6 am in the morning :D

So the gentleman and lady seated across my table are dating! They're colleagues.... we all are.

They are quite matured anyway, the lady especially! I've never seen them share a joke talk less of any minute PDA...  where it me, i'm sure we would have long been sacked LOL.

I will probably keep shouting "honey" across the office all day.

People who do office love try sha.... i've only been guilty* once. Infact that period, it was only the thought of seeing my lover that brought me to work daily LOL. we would chat via messenger all day. Not sure we both got meaningful work done...

*sighs*

My MIL is visiting for a few months. Been walking on eggshells since..... Why can't we all just get along? *rolls eyes* . I hope my daughters in law will speak well of me when the time comes. I certainly don't intend to be a pain in anyone's butt.

Lost some weight over the past two months, 5kg to be precise..

I've still got about 20kg to go. Hopefully it'll all magically drop off before the end of the year. I'm hoping to incorporate exercise into my lifestyle for good. For now progress has been nil in that area!

I've rambled enough, will be back *winks*

Friday, 1 August 2014

Lilies of the valley

So i got duped a few days back!!!!

In traffic for that matter.... i should have known better abi?

What happened was i saw a man hawking plants....

I like plants you see, so i called him and said what's the name. He said 'madam na Lily'

I suspect he used juju on me , because even though i am not an expert an plants.... It couldn't have been lilies being sold in traffic.

He said N500 each, i said N200??????????? He said ah no oh say na N300 last...

Then he said 'one madam just buy two from me now, she price am the day before as she see am today she just run quick by am'

i hurriedly said bring one bring one....

then he says no change, take 2 for N500

Your truly jumped at the offer....

Got home to replant and i was "lillied" LOL

The damn plans didn't even have roots, talk less of being lilies for real.

 The 419 of a hawker just plucked them off some plant/flower branches wrapped them with soil and was hawking to people like me who just want to buy lilies for N250 :D

I'm still looking for that man, na God go save am if i see am again mcheewww

Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Birthday tins#

i have just turned 34.....

....today;)


this gal is becoming old oh LOL