Tuesday, 9 December 2014

2014: The highs and the lows!

What a year....

It seems just like yesterday where we were wishing each other a happy new year!

I'm particularly thankful to God, not once this year was my freezer or my kitchen empty of food.

I also didn't spend any night in hospital on account of ill health, my boys or their dad too :)

God was indeed merciful, for the areas i lacked or didn't meet my goals or expectations there is plenty more to be grateful for once i just look to the other side!

I seize this opportunity to again appreciate the Almighty God, thank you Lord.

One of the many achievements of mine this year is that i have now learnt how to separate emotions from common sense. It took me many long years but i am now on that path and i tell you it's certainly a rewarding path to be on! Prior to now i would use my emotions to make many decisions especially in the area of friendships. I would delve in head first as long as it was to the benefit of my friend. After being bitten in the face severally i have now finally learnt to be wise.

One or two friendships have of course now been lost* due to this. Naturally ..... LOL

One friendship fizzled away, cant even fathom why anymore(i tried to work out the reason for a long time) but i guess as Yoruba people say 20 children cannot play together for 20 years!! Some will move onto other things!

This year(in the last quarter) i also learnt to pay more attention to self. In the area of external aesthetics i haven't always paid attention to myself and having kids just made it worse*.  Before i check my clothes, or my needs i spend the little i have on the boys! Typical abi? In the last quarter i resolved to correct this, and slowly and steadily i am making progress, nothing remarkable but the journey of a thousand miles begins with a step abi?

Maybe i should do part 2 of this post its getting quite long LOL

So what you you learnt or improved on or otherwise in 2014? Please do share!!!

Monday, 10 November 2014

Old age???????

Yesterday I went to see a friend who had recently lost her dad in tragic circumstances. As I walked into the house, I met her mum finishing off a meal complete with an apple and a bottle of coke. Nothing unusual one might add, but my first thought was how can this woman who has just lost her beloved hubby eat like this? While watching BBA for that matter!!!. After a few moments I wondered why I had such thoughts, I mean is she supposed to starve herself because her hubby had passed away? Then I realised that these are the kind of thoughts that one has after being rubbed off from interactions with archaic cultures and traditions. What really has become of me? LOL Is this old age?
In other news yours truly took a road walk yesterday. I probably walked 5km at the least. I’m still feeling the pain in my legs. I hope I can keep this up, I really dislike the way I pant even after shedding some of the kg. And I’m certainly not keen on buying any bigger dress sizes. I suspect clothes manufacturers intentionally make all the fine fine ladies clothes in small sizes :D
 The year is winding down so quickly. I’m trying to plan for 2015 early enough. Not sure I did a good job with my plans and projections for this year… One achievement is that I finally seem* to have a grasp on minimal quarrelling with my spouse. Mind over matter really works :D!!! To all the new wives, don’t sweat the small stuff with your man, there’s no point and there are more important things to sweat ;)

Let me concentrate on this meeting I’m sitting in.

XOXO


UPDATE: Meeting never gree finish oh, this is 3 hours on.... God help me this week

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

No title.....

I should take more pictures one of the ways to record precious moments is through pictures,that was a random thought.
I've stayed away from here for too long life and its many distractions. *sighs*
Didn't get the house done up as planned, my younger brother had to travel abroad for school, I sacrificed my cash as support for him, irony of life is that a few years down the line he may or may not remember this gesture *sighs again*
One of the thoughts that has plagued me recently is dealing with a cheating partner especially in Africa where our culture is so accepting of it when the offender is a male. A beloved friend and sister is in this situation and has tried fighting her man, fighting the lady/mistress/girlfriend, pleading with her man to stop and so on. All these have been to no avail, and it has left me pondering really what does one do with a philandering man? Sometimes leaving the union is not immediately feasible especially where there are children or there's no economic power to do so..... I have also been faced with this scenario and find myself seemingly hapless!!!!!
On the other hand my diet and eating habits modifications are kinda taking effect, I'd like to exercise at home but just find it kinda boring.... I am now 88kg from the initial 94kg where I started off from.
Things at work have taken an interesting turn apparently everyone is sleeping with everyone and I was the only one oblivious to this fact LOL na wa

Monday, 25 August 2014

Ramblings of an idle mind.

Yep... idle even though today is Monday!


I've just stumbled on the blogspot of someone i kinda knew(from afar) as a toddler. Damn i am quite old. I wonder if it's ok for me to still be blogging sef, a number of people i started this blogging race with all seemed to have fizzled out or is it moved onto other stuff?

Nah... i'll stay i kinda enjoy putting my thoughts out there for whoever to read and enjoy.. At least i hope some people enjoy reading it LOL

Is putting up office gist on a personal blog gossip? Just got some random gist that i wanna spill but don't want to be offensive.... The summary is that we had a cleaning assistant turned clerk here some years back. She got pregnant, said she was married but there was no ceremony per se! She resigned suddenly on grounds of needing extra maternity leave and not having anyone to care for baby etc etc. Imagine my shock when i recently found out that father of baby is actually one of the managers here!!!! He's single though. Now he shows up today to say he's married. Then i heard it's this same lady he has married..... Of course he's probably too embarrassed to admit she's his wife now. He didn't invite anyone to the ceremony or whatever it was they did to symbolize the union. I wonder for how long he can keep up the charade????????? Wont he ever put a pic of her? Wont anyone ever visit him at home?

Anyway na thier palaver....

The things that men do........

I looked* at myself on Sunday and wondered what has become of me. I barely recognise myself anymore. Marriage, its attendant challenges, motherhood, losing a job and taking a lesser* type has completely subsumed me over the past few years.

I'd like to restart/reset/revamp myself. Is this possible? For a start i'm redoing my living area. Over the next few weeks i'm getting the house repainted and redecorated etc etc. I hope to put up pics. Infact today i better take some pics to use as the before* pics and then i'd take after when the work is done.

I hope by penning it down i'd follow through on my new resolve/committments.

Gotta go Ciao XOXO

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Randoms....


Yesterday morning at about 6am, I overheard my boys arguing.. the smaller individual who's four said that girls dont have peepees. The older individual who's 5 going 6 insisted that of course they have, i was in a dilemma do I butt in and end up late at work or i just leave them to come to their own conclusions LOL... I ran off to my office quietly, i mean it was only 6 am in the morning :D

So the gentleman and lady seated across my table are dating! They're colleagues.... we all are.

They are quite matured anyway, the lady especially! I've never seen them share a joke talk less of any minute PDA...  where it me, i'm sure we would have long been sacked LOL.

I will probably keep shouting "honey" across the office all day.

People who do office love try sha.... i've only been guilty* once. Infact that period, it was only the thought of seeing my lover that brought me to work daily LOL. we would chat via messenger all day. Not sure we both got meaningful work done...

*sighs*

My MIL is visiting for a few months. Been walking on eggshells since..... Why can't we all just get along? *rolls eyes* . I hope my daughters in law will speak well of me when the time comes. I certainly don't intend to be a pain in anyone's butt.

Lost some weight over the past two months, 5kg to be precise..

I've still got about 20kg to go. Hopefully it'll all magically drop off before the end of the year. I'm hoping to incorporate exercise into my lifestyle for good. For now progress has been nil in that area!

I've rambled enough, will be back *winks*

Friday, 1 August 2014

Lilies of the valley

So i got duped a few days back!!!!

In traffic for that matter.... i should have known better abi?

What happened was i saw a man hawking plants....

I like plants you see, so i called him and said what's the name. He said 'madam na Lily'

I suspect he used juju on me , because even though i am not an expert an plants.... It couldn't have been lilies being sold in traffic.

He said N500 each, i said N200??????????? He said ah no oh say na N300 last...

Then he said 'one madam just buy two from me now, she price am the day before as she see am today she just run quick by am'

i hurriedly said bring one bring one....

then he says no change, take 2 for N500

Your truly jumped at the offer....

Got home to replant and i was "lillied" LOL

The damn plans didn't even have roots, talk less of being lilies for real.

 The 419 of a hawker just plucked them off some plant/flower branches wrapped them with soil and was hawking to people like me who just want to buy lilies for N250 :D

I'm still looking for that man, na God go save am if i see am again mcheewww

Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Birthday tins#

i have just turned 34.....

....today;)


this gal is becoming old oh LOL

Monday, 9 June 2014

Submissivenesss or just plain old.....

..... Stupidity?

My mum's tenant has just moved out. While they lived there, the relationship was seemingly cordial. At least there were no apparent glitches, in fact the family(excluding husband though) regularly had meals in our house! I could enumerate several other ways in which they benefited from  the relationship- help to pick their children from school, assistance in running errands and so on. Then they came with good news!  They had just completed their building project.

Suddenly the reason their rent was at several different times paid in bits made sense. They were investing in their project  and delaying rent etc etc. No wahala they are sha leaving abi?

Few days after they moved i strolled in to assess the place and see what needs to be repaired or upgraded etc etc. What i saw was quite embarrassing and most disgusting. The place was filled with filth that  i couldn't imagine that these people could/would/should have been living with. it was like an incinerator- no joke.

In my fury i called the Mrs. Luckily she didn't pick my call, i arranged for the place to be cleaned up and that took 3 days. Imagine the pile.

Did i add that their outstanding  NEPA bill(unpaid) was in excess of N20,000? When my called the husband, he sent someone with the cash, meaning my mum should sojourn to NEPA office herself, sort the bills and re-connection matters abi?

At this point i knew i had to speak up about the issue so i did.

Got the Mrs on phone and told her i was displeased about the mess as well as the nepa issue. Especially as the man wasnt decent enough to come and resolve it himself. Her next words completely left me speechless.

She said it wasnt "her fault". That because she's pregnant her husband did the bulk of moving the items and she claimed she had arranged for some fellow to come and clean up alongside her husband who said he wanted to search through the pile in case there is any important item dropped in the rubble. But they returned the key and said goodbye????????????????

In  addition she said she mentioned to her husband that even though he didnt relate much with my mum, she and the children did so  and as such he should ensure the place is tidied and nepa bills sorted but the man didn't listen and she didnt want to seem "un-submissive" or like she was challenging his authority.

I find this plain stupid!!!

Are we to let our husbands be foolish or act irrationally because we are being submissive?

If she didn't agree on his stance as regards clean up could she not have made arrangements even if without his consent? Seeing as that is the right thing!!!!!!

i hope i get people's perspectives on this subject and perhaps examples. But for me i would chose doing the right thing over submissiveness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Tuesday, 13 May 2014

Yes!!!

My story too will change for good very soon in  Jesus name !


AMMMMEEEEENNNNN


Just felt a strong urge to put that up

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Personal or not???????

I'm quite an amiable fellow. Mostly agreeable to people and a ,firm believer in and of good friendships.

As expected I've gotten burnt a couple of times and while i do try, i cannot authoritatively say I've been 100% to all my friends. Surely i too have some shortcomings. 

However i do find myself wondering at some occurrences that seem to repeat themselves around me all in the name of this friendship. 

I hope this my intro is apt sef. 

A really good pal of mine has a habit of never mentioning her trips to me. I find it absurd. Especially when we could have been chatting up to an hour before the said trip(s). It makes me wonder, do people really prefer such information to be private? Are my expectations unreasonable? 

My sister's husband did it a couple of times and my dear sister said "oh well, they prefer their family issues private". The 1st time it happened they came to ask my mum to baby sit because my sister was away, next thing hubby too carries bag that he 'suddenly' has to go to SA. And i'm like why all the secrecy?. They even had the nerve to tell my mum that he only just got a visa, like he got the thing in the morning and wanted to travel that same night.... mcheeewwww. His second trip he called to say goodbye from the airport. Another trip he didn't even mention but returned with T-shirts for family members. 

My brother says he's allowed to do that, he is after all not a direct relative in the true sense of it. 

Back to my friend. 

She was relocating to another town and she only just told me after it had been done. I felt bad. Months after when i took her up on it, she said all the circumstances surrounding the move were embarrassing and it was a difficult time for her so she didn't/couldn't share. i disagreed. At the time i knew she wanted to take a trip and was even involved in sourcing funds!!!! then she got some cash moved and didn't even have the decency to bring it up! i thought she was coming for a holiday and didn't realize it was a relocation!!!!

Again it has happened. She was out of town for a bit, and we were in touch throughout. Even up until yesterday evening. Imagine my shock when a mutual friend just rang me to say oh did i know she was back in town this morning?

Called another random friend of mine, who said i'd buzz you later, i'm boarding a plane to the UK. Even though i felt quite slighted i still haven't discussed it till date. 

I'm quite annoyed and wondering what all the secrecy in this type of info is. Am i being too nosy here?

Monday, 24 March 2014

"And co"

On Sunday in  church, one man strolled in wearing a white shirt and black trousers. Normally he'd be dressed in ankara sewn into buba and sokoto, his wife would also wear some ankara and even if not the same fabric design it'll be same colours or at least similar( you get the drift). So when he strolled in on Sunday, i wondered what his wife would wear!!! 

She came in a few minutes after wearing a suit! Since then, I've been wondering how exactly do 'and co' couples work it out? Does one person say- dear we are wearing 'our' brown fabric today? or does one person pick out the clothes and that's it? do they have like a meeting where clothes for the week are picked out? 

How exactly does it work? what if one person genuinely doesn't like it? Will he/she say so? and risk the other person getting/feeling hurt? 

It also brings to mind couples that eat thier meals from the same plates (as often as they can)..... 

i'm not against any of these displays of affection/love oh i'm just wondering how it's done. 

Are there any couples here who practise these? or other/near in nature/similar stuff? 

Do share your stories!!!!

For some reason i think Ibiluv would be guilty of one or more of these stuff ;)

Tuesday, 18 March 2014

Gist.....

A few days ago my son asked me why boys and girls say 'hey' when they're dancing..... I couldn't stop laughing especially seeing as i am guilty of the same offence
This morning he wanted to know why women have to wear breast hangers(don't ask me LOL) on thier breasts and i promptly told him it's because we need somewhere to 'hang' our boobies :D Abi?

I'm having my lunch right now.... garri and moin moin! Care for some? Lunch was nice.... hmmmmmm 

Not sure i can get any more work done today sha, not after this amount of food is sitting in my tummy  *sighs*

My brain has paused.... will be back ;)

Thursday, 27 February 2014

Traumasssssss for the week ;)

So my colleague went to the mosque this morning and came back in bathroom slippers! Some random aboki(we assume) had made away with his shoes!  They were somewhat new..... I had quite a laugh at him, but felt somewhat pained that people i.e thieves have no iota of respect for the house of worship/prayer anymore! Such brazenness mcheeeewwww 
The poor gentleman had to spend money buying shoes which he definetely didn't plan before!!!

On the other hand, yours truly had a great big fall on Tuesday...... in the office. Open office for that matter *sighs* 

I was headed to the loo, and all i remember is not looking to where i was headed, maybe i was plucking random gist with my ears sef who knows, and i tripped over one carton that had been in the walkway!. Me and my massive buttocks landed with a thud on the floor.  my butt was in the air, *think muslim style praying* i was just silently praying that the trossis wont rip from all the trauma! if that happened i would have resigned immediately...... I'm still in some pain, my arms and knees somewhat hurt!!!! 

The colleague of mine who placed the boxes in the way, was "forced" to buy me shawarma as compensation..... 


Mchhhheeeeewwww i bought cranberry juice instead it wont do to add to this yokozuna size! 

People who decide to live healthy lifestyle, you know exercise and healthy meals, how do they manage sef? I just see rice and oily stew and get into a frenzy of "i must just eat that" 

Week's been good asides all this trauma, how's everyone else doing.......

Thursday, 13 February 2014

Shuga!!!

Can anyone please tell me why i'm just watching Shuga????? Biko the thing odi egwu :D


Saturday, 1 February 2014

Fire..... fire...

Of course it was the night i decided to go for vigil in church that i arrived there and gates  were locked.

Monthly vigil had apparently been cancelled mcheeeewwww

One of my resolutions was to attend these vigils more and you can imagine all my excitement last night when i got home in good time to be able to attend.

I even dragged the kids half naked and asleep into the car, figuring i'd dress them when we get there. i sha didnt want to suddenly realise it was late and i couldnt drive that late at night etc etc. In fact at a point i started nodding off and contemplated a short nap but i called the devil a liar and got dressed instead.....



mcheeeeeewwwww

Tuesday, 21 January 2014

This work wanna kill a people oh!

No be small thing....

I have been soooo swamped. Setting up a new department and trying to chart a new course isn't an easy feat at all.

I've barely been able to catch my breath all month, plus this 100 days fasting....

God is our strength oh- my co 100 days people ;)

On the up side i'm enjoying coming to work for a change... The role is something i've always wanted to do and i'm quite glad for the opportunity. The down side is all the politicking that comes* with the role. I work directly with the MD and everyone is more or less throwing themselves at me with all sorts of offers, juice, groundnuts, let me carry your bag etc etc . It is well. The MD himself is full of contradictions and apparently likes to knock people's heads together, God will give me wisdom. It surprises me though that even high up on the career ladder people still have/show/exhibit lack of integrity and good morals.

How's everyone else doing?

My son called me big and fat the other day!!! LOL i was surprised he actually can define these things he's just 5. I have commenced exercise albeit infrequently at the moment.

Just sneaked* in here to drop a few lines

will be back ;)

Friday, 3 January 2014

New year new me....

Sounds quite cliche i guess!!!! 

But seriously i'm hoping to give a few new thing s a try out in my life. One of which is to keep up with this space rather than internalise my issues. 

My job has finally received some ray of hope. Things are somewhat looking up!!!! 

The challenges are new and exciting and i'm happy to be in this place at this time...

Also doing some spiritual and physical revamp. Funke Akindele aka Jenifa is my inspiration for the physical bit..... the girl just always looks on point. She looks quite fit as well.... 

Not much else to pen down right now but here i am ensuring that i follow through on one of my commitments ;)


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