It's not always rosy!!!

What a weekend i had...
I got to rest and at least i spent some time with my little boy...
Who by the way can how hiss :D
He was beating my neighbor the other day(they’re always fighting) and she hissed at him... He looked at her so sternly (particularly at her mouth) and made a clucking sound with his tongue...LOL
You need to have heard how we laughed at him…
The yeye boy: D
That’s the only thing that seems stable in my world right now…
There’s been a lot of talk on blogsville and by some strange coincidence about “what you’ll do if you husband’s cheating etc” I have been very opinionated about the matter. I keep going on and on about not tolerating nonsense from any man etc etc Funny that right now I find myself somewhat confronted with this and have not the foggiest idea what to do or how to deal with the situation!!!!!!!!!!!
Not like I’ve actually caught him in the act or something but definitely there’s something fishy and funny going down…
I just feel helpless!!!!!!!!!!
I ran into a friend of mine over the weekend, we did some catching up and she mentioned that she was seeing a married man.
All I said to her was “as long as you both are happy”
But deep in my heart I knew it was wrong and I shouldn’t have supported the whole idea….
But again I felt helpless!!!!!
My suspicions are causing me grief and talking them over really hasn’t helped!!! He just couldn’t be bothered to prove my suspicions unnecessary or otherwise…
Feel so frustrated and of course that just makes me turn to food…
It’s seems to be a vicious cycle...
Hope I get out of it soon!!!

Comments

Arewa said…
Fluffy, I'm speechless. I definitely don't have any advice seeing as I am not married yet. I'm an emotional eater too but I control it by working out and finding other things to occupy my time. Let us know how it goes and I hope ur suspicions are false
~Sirius~ said…
Now this is the part of marriage that freaks me out.

If it's a relationship- the option to walk is just darn right easy to make,
But not when they are vows and a child.

May God help us all.

PS: your Son is growing really fast. *hissing already, lol
NoLimit said…
Wow!!! that's a handful to deal with on your own...I feel you on being helpless in some situations...
Sometimes I feel I have the right/best response to every question...but I know I'm not God so I don't...just chin up and don't let yourself go...Keep your side of the vow and don't stop loving...glad your boy is doing very...sharp boy can hiss now!!!lol
NewLife said…
Hi there, I agree that its not always rosy. You may need to try a new approach in confronting your hubby. it may need to be a softer or a more vulnerable approach, then he may be able to relate to how hurt or distressed you are. Ask yourself a lot of questions about where your suspicion is coming from. The number 1 is to pray and continue to pray about the situation, for God to help you through this and reveal the situation to you, whereby you are left without a shadow of doubt. Goodluck and God bless.
Lady A said…
Ask God for forgiveness and come out of agreement with the statement you told her and make u say in Jesus name. I just did a post "Spying on the Husband" on the Golden Wives blog, lol. And forgive yourself. You'll be fine dear. No worries. We all said stupid stuff, but don't feel helpless. She knows it's wrong and all she is doing is sowing seeds of infidelity into her very own marriage. No glory or bragging rights to that!
Dee! said…
Why do you feel something is fishy? You just might be wrong. As much as possible, please do not give room to suspicions or unnecessary thoughts...

Behold the Christ in your husband and continue to pray for him, he is YOUR husband!
Your little boy is so cute!!!

You free your mind and get rid of the suspicions, they just might not be real and your hubby would be offended if they happen not to be true.
Myne Whitman said…
Wow, your son is really growing fast, congrats.

As for your hubby, do you have any evidence? No matter how flimsy. Have an open mind sha and ask to have a non threatening, non condemning talk. I wish you the best.
SHE said…
No matter what happens, please don't turn to food. You know that it could be dangerous to do that.

Take things easy. Pray hard.
temmy tayo said…
Aren't kids just so funny. Hissing bawo?lol

Sometimes we get lost on what to say to friends on sensitive issues like this. Lest you hear something like ''no be ur fault shebi u don marry and even born sef''.
SOLOMONSYDELLE said…
I hope you manage to figure things out. But, if I may make a suggestion, please stop feeling helpless. There are many things in your life that you are in control of and you must exercise that control. If you don't you will see other parts of your life start to fall out of order and as we all know it is never easy to get back on the right path especially when many things in our lives are out of whack.

So, take a deep breath, put on your big girl panties and tackle the issues one at a time. Deal with the easier ones first and work your way up to the hardest. As per your relationship, think about what your inaction says about you, your future and what you want to be.

Take care sweetie. You are right, its not always rosy, but thankfully we were made with the strength and ability to make choices. You'll be fine, sis.
LG said…
norrin dey happen!
Afrobabe said…
Get some area boys to follow him around and if he really is cheating have them beat him up…don’t forget to tell them to leave the important part oh...
~Sirius~ said…
Just checking on you.

I hope things are good now.
Fluffycutething said…
My good people thanks for all the advice i sincerely appreciate you all!!!!

Things are better in the sense that i communicated my feelings and position on the issue and i have also decided to turn a blind eye to the matter(s) for now and focus on improving myself in all areas....

So help me God !!!
Anoda Phase said…
Fluffy I'm glad u r doing better now...I really hope u find out ur suspicions were baseless, as that would make u happier...also, this is the time to really get close (or closer) to ur hubby n make him feel like the king he is to you, ok? hopefully, that will draw him back to u if at all he had thots of/plans to stray...I wish u d very best...

oh, n ur baby! lol...hissing already?
Mojisola said…
You had me scared there but am glad to hear you have some kind of handle on things now.

Abeg do not turn to food, you need to keep your looks up, girl. . .

And to be honest, while most of us are opinionated about everything, when faced with a situation no matter what we say, we do not always know what to do. Do not feel pressured to do anything.
theicequeen said…
LOL @ Afro's comment..no do o!

I'm not married, and won't even lay claim to a serious relationship, but the one thing i know is that suspicions have a way of causing problems where there are none, and hurting people when they find out about them. Biko, for yourself more than anything, try not to encourage that sort of active imagination, it'll only give you HBP!...there is no bridge worth crossing before you get to it...for zee pikins and your sake, try and take it jeje :P and don't stop praying over it!

and true word, the turning to food thing is a vicious cycle..better not to go there

Hope everything turns out great soonish!
theicequeen said…
whoops..just saw your reply...ah well.. ^_^ happy for you
FFF said…
i blogged abt a cheating husband, trying to recall if u commented on it again. anyways, i've always known dat what pple say they will do wen their spouse cheats is usually d last thing they actually do if it happens. it's normal. if in ur shoes, i imagine i'd be helpless too cos i've always dreaded being cheated on. i mean, wen i moved to abeokuta for work, i kept snooping on my visits to lagos just to know if if if. but really, it doesn't help does it? so i worked on stopping.

as for having suspicions, dat is normal too - practically every married woman living in naija gets d idea dat her hubby is cheating popping into her head every so often. it's d territory we r in - cheating is not frowned at. den u tell urself there r some things u can't control (abi, u go dey follow follow him abt? & get urself HBP??), & learn to turn a blind eye to them. it's well love.

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