Culture vs Common Sense
I realized today that the office assistant in my organisation has still not buried his mother.
She passed away after an illness in June 2014. Their culture I understand states that there must be some ceremonies (i.e. party,as far as i am concerned) as part of the funeral rites. So, to give some time for her children/other family members to raise funds the funeral was scheduled for December 2014.
It didn’t make any sense to me. I felt and still feel they should have buried the woman and have the party or parties or funeral rites whenever they can. But I don’t think any of them quite explored that option.
Unfortunately tragedy struck as they were headed for his mum’s burial in December. His sister unexpectedly passed away. All the funds raised immediately had to be diverted to transporting her remains home and towards her own funeral.
I remembered this whole thing yesterday and it occurred to me his mum is still in the morgue. Didn't any of their family members just see that in the light of this tragedy both should have been buried and they can have the funeral rites for the mother whenever they’re able to?
Again this family isn't high up on the income ladder!
From my interactions with the gentleman it seems they feel constrained by extended family members and the dictates of their culture. But surely their common sense should count for something now? Abi?